Imagine Social Anxiety as a person

Imagine walking into a bustling party full of laughter, chatter, and the clinking of glasses. Now, imagine that amongst the guests, there’s one that nobody invited but almost always shows up — Social Anxiety. Picture Social Anxiety as an actual person, clinging to the arm of one member of a couple who has arrived at the party. How would its presence affect the evening for the couple, and how they behave with the other guests?

The Arrival

Without Social Anxiety: As the couple walks in, they’re both looking forward to meeting the others at the party. They greet friends, make introductions, and start conversations with ease.

With Social Anxiety as a Guest: Now picture Social Anxiety holding onto the arm of one partner as they enter. This partner’s heart starts pounding. Even as their more outgoing partner greets people, the socially anxious one is looking around nervously, avoiding eye contact. Social Anxiety whispers reminders of every possible thing that could go wrong.

Talking with the other guests

Without Social Anxiety: Normally, the couple would separate at times to chat with different groups of friends or colleagues. They would comfortably speak, share things about what’s going on in their lives, or maybe even hit the dance floor!

With Social Anxiety as a Guest: Here, Social Anxiety grips the anxious partner tighter, making it difficult to venture away from their more outgoing partner or the safety of a corner. Social Anxiety discourages engagement, making every conversation seem like a high-stakes gamble.

Meeting New People

Without Social Anxiety: The thrill of meeting new people is something both partners usually enjoy, making the most out of the social gathering. They enjoy talking to new people, learning about others or are happy talking about themselves when asked.

With Social Anxiety as a Guest: As the socially anxious partner attempts to approach someone new, Social Anxiety hangs back, pulling them away, warning them of the potential judgment or embarrassment that could happen if you become the focus of attention.

During Conversations

Without Social Anxiety: Conversations flow naturally. Both partners are open, engaging with others, and enjoy the attention that comes from others and the interactions.

With Social Anxiety as a Guest: Social Anxiety never misses a chance to criticise. Each word, each pause, and even each gesture is scrutinised. It’s as if Social Anxiety holds up a magnifying glass to every ‘flaw,’ making the anxious partner more self-conscious than ever.