Money
Some people like to save and rarely spend. Others place no real value on money and spend it without thinking about the consequences. No surprise it can create conflict in a couple relationship.
What does money mean to you?
Your individual relationship with money will be determined and driven by your emotional self. Fear, reward, safety, anxiety, pleasure, love, control, greed are all driven by what money means to you personally. The relationship you have with money will generally be shaped by the time you are of an age to manage and spend it.
Money is a part of your relationship
We often learn how to be with money from our past experiences with parents and significant others. Some people like to save and rarely spend others place no real value on money and spend it without thinking about the consequences. Of course, money will become a part of your relationships with partners and children and can be a huge source of conflict.
When there are differences regarding managing money in a relationship, it can cause real conflict leading to arguments and resentment which manifests in different parts of the relationship. These arguments never seem to resolve or reach a compromise and can bring a side out in your partner which is difficult to tolerate.
Nightingale Couple Counsellors
If this sounds familiar to you take it to couple counselling. Third party intervention here will be useful for you to gain an understanding of your own relationship with money and the relationship your partner has with money. This insight will encourage empathy and compromise on both sides. Agreed boundaries and a way forward is important to sustain a better couple relationship with and around money.
Remember you are teaching your children and others around you how to shape a relationship with money and therefore lessons you learn will benefit others moving forward.
Money and Love aren’t the same thing. The more money you spend, the less you have of it. The more you spend love, the more you get back in return.
Online Counselling
Providing you with the tools you need to take the next step.
Technology is rapidly changing the ways we can interact with each other, and counselling is no exception. This
service can be provided upon request. For the below options you will need broadband/internet connection and
somewhere quiet and private you can speak without being overheard or interrupted. Your Counsellor will agree with
you what happens should the technology fail, but in all other respects the counselling relationship will be the same
as a ‘face to face’ one. The Counsellor will speak to you from a private room …
0141 353 9373
Mon-Fri 08.00 – 21.00
Sat 09.00 – 17.00
(out of hours at discretion of Counsellor)
5 La Belle Place,
Glasgow, G3 7LH
The Prince & Princess of Wales Hospice,
20 Dumbreck Rd,
Glasgow, G41 5BW