Communication Breakdown
When communication breaks down, couples often go around in circles, saying the same things and acting the same way bringing up the same issues and never get any further forward.
This is by far the most common reason for couples to come into couple counselling.
When communication breaks down, couples find themselves stuck on how to reconnect. Usually, they go around in circles, saying the same things and acting the same way, bringing up the same issue and never getting any further forward.
Arguing and bickering causes a great deal of frustration and resentment as there is no resolution. Equally; silences, one-word answers, factual communication, and cold and detached avoidance causes a great deal of sadness. Whatever communication difficulty you may be experiencing can dramatically improve with the intervention of an experienced couple counsellor.
The aim of the couples counsellor is to help the couple to:
- Open the lines of communication
- Listen without interruptions – not cut across each other
- Learn the art of listening – really listening and hearing
- Develop empathy
- Break bad habits
- Find a new and better way of relating
- Unpack and examine the style of communication we learned from parents and peers
- Understand how avoiding conflict creates it
- How keeping quiet and holding on to resentment affects the relationship
- How much of your relationship with yourself affects your communication
Nightingale Couple Counsellors
After we sort the communication issues, couples might be ready to move on. However, there may be situations or core issues from the past and present that we need to work on resolving. This becomes much easier when the communication is improved.
This is very specialised work which requires the experience and training of the couples counsellor to re-establish a strong foundation and rebuild a better relationship than the one that first entered the consulting room. In addition to helping you change your communication style we will use directed reading, worksheets and structured homework to give you the tools to stay on track.
Below are a few of the communication styles we see in couple counselling. Look for your own not just your partners!
- THE SHOUTER
- THE BICKERER
- THE SNAPPY
- THE SULKIER
- THE INSULTER
- THE AVOIDANT
- THE POOR ME
- THE PUNISHER
- THE CHATTERBOX
- THE PLEASER
- THE PARENT
- THE FIXER
- THE DEFENDER
We arrived at Florence, sceptical of counselling, really struggling to communicate with each other and on the verge of (reluctantly) separating. Florence’s frankness and compassionate holistic approach helped us consider the whole relationship and unpick the origin of the problem. We are now able to healthily argue and are, we believe, on the road to a more intimate lifelong relationship
Online Counselling
Providing you with the tools you need to take the next step.
Technology is rapidly changing the ways we can interact with each other, and counselling is no exception. This
service can be provided upon request. For the below options you will need broadband/internet connection and
somewhere quiet and private you can speak without being overheard or interrupted. Your Counsellor will agree with
you what happens should the technology fail, but in all other respects the counselling relationship will be the same
as a ‘face to face’ one. The Counsellor will speak to you from a private room …
0141 353 9373
Mon-Fri 08.00 – 21.00
Sat 09.00 – 17.00
(out of hours at discretion of Counsellor)
5 La Belle Place,
Glasgow, G3 7LH
The Prince & Princess of Wales Hospice,
20 Dumbreck Rd,
Glasgow, G41 5BW