Unpleasant negative feelings emerge in response to situations of conflict. When couples are in conflict it is not only destructive to them personally, it is unpleasant for the others around them, especially their children. Divorce may be decided if conflict cannot be resolved, for others there may be no conflict just a feeling they are no longer in love with their partner and want to be separated. If a third party is involved there is often anger, resentment and pain. No matter what the issue is if divorce or separation is inevitable then finding a way forward to remain amicable is always the best way for everyone involved.

“Easier said than done!”,  I expect you are thinking. However, it can be done.

If there are children involved, you will probably be considering co-parenting, and the reality is that you will have to adopt a different relationship as parents to your children. You may have separated from each other, however, generally, neither parent wants to separate from their children.

Nightingale couple counsellors can help with:

• How, what, and when do we tell the children?
• Decide a set of boundaries agreed by both parties
• Encourage harmony to ease the transition
• Devise a plan of action as you move forward separately
• Ensure you agree how and when you communicate about your children
• Third-party contact and their role
• Bringing the couple relationship to an end